How I Kept My Marriage From Falling Apart
Miguel Younallvin | December 10, 2011I presume that you stumbled upon this article because you are looking for ways on how to save a marriage.Whether you know someone whose marriage is falling apart, or being in that situation yourself, this article might be of help. While I am not claiming myself to be a marriage expert, I have been in that situation once myself and thankfully I have moved out of it with my family still intact. I guess that such experience, which I will be discussing in this article, can provide you valuable insight to your marital problems and how to address them.
I married at an early age, 23 years old to be exact. My wife is ten years my senior, but back when we were still dating, and even in the first few years of our marriage, that age difference was never a problem. However, this changed three years into our marriage. Issues related to our age gap like disparities in our hobbies, lifestyle, and even sex drive have become a major factor in most of our disputes. This 10 year age difference also made her particularly leery of my female colleagues who are of the same age as me. My wife usually went into a jealous rage whenever I tell her that my office buddies and I are going out for a drink.
These frequent arguments strained our marriage, and it came to a point that I had enough and decided to leave the house for a while. I stayed in a hotel for two weeks and it was during that time that I read a couple of self-help books which gave me tips on how to save a marriage. Perusing those self-help books made me see our marital issues from a different perspective. I realized that my wife wasn’t the source of all our marital problems and I was also partly to blame. Whenever she had a jealous fit, I never really did anything to reassure her. Furthermore, my unwillingness to bring her to parties and nights out with pals and officemates left her feeling unwanted, unloved, further fueling her jealousy. I also learned how important flirting and foreplay is to women which made me realize why my wife wasn’t as happy with our impromptu carnal encounters.
Armed with those new insights I returned home, asked my wife for forgiveness, and invited her to a romantic dinner, to which she obliged. We talked about our differences, attentively listening and not interrupting her while she said her piece.
Since then, I tell her everyday that I love her, and leave handwritten notes, both romantic and suggestive, in her daily planner and in other areas of the house she frequents. I now insist on taking her along to get-togethers with friends and I am particularly cuddly with her if female colleagues are around to reassure her that I’m hers and hers alone. We also make it a point to have a dinner once a week, and travel out of town during our anniversaries.
Today my wife and I are celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary and our family has grown. We now have two daughters, twins, who are just as gorgeous as their mom. Each day, I am thankful to have them, and my love for them grows ever deeper as days go by.
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